Next time your computer hangs, do this!

A few decades ago, you had a computer with 2GB storage space. Your computer would hang after making a ‘kar-kar-kar’ when you tried to open the internet explorer.

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Now things have changed. You now have the best laptop available in the market. You have even better performing desktop computer with you. Your desktop computer has 16GB+ of RAM and 2TB+ of storage space. That is a lot.

However, your computer still hangs. Because you have now much more things to do than before. When you will become old, you will perhaps have a supercomputer with you. But regardless of its capacity and performance, it will still hang. Because ‘hanging’ is the nature of the external world.

Next time your computer hangs, slow down a bit. Your computer is telling you that you are going too fast. It is telling that your mind is out of balance. Your pace is not in harmony with the world you live in.

Life is all about maintaining harmony and balance. If you go too slow, you will fail. But if you go too fast, you will still fail. So find that speed of balance, between the slow and fast one. If you do that, your computer will never hang.

When a DMV staff gave blessings

Today, I went to the California DMV office to renew my driver’s license. In the past, I never had the experience of getting the work done on the same day. I had to come on another day, sometimes with a proof of address, sometimes with the I-20 and so on. You certainly know the hassles that an immigrant has to go through, for these things.

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But today, my experience was completely different. A beautiful, Mongolian-faced girl was waiting to serve me when I reached the counter. As we made eye contact, our eyes spoke for sometime. Being a bit watery, her eyes were telling me that I am just like you, an immigrant. After the eye contact, only a few words were exchanged. Everything went smooth. Within a few minutes, I was out with my new driver’s license.

If she had wanted, she could have easily asked me to come the next day. She had enough reasons to do so. I never have all the documents required.

When I was about to leave, I had no words to say. But still I said to her ‘thank you so much’. But my eyes were still asking “why are you doing this?” She said “you are very welcome”. But her eyes clearly said something different “Because you deserve it.”

When I left the office, I was feeling so light and happy. But my mind was wondering “why all this happened today?”

Soon after I started driving back home, I got the answer. Something inside me said “god blessed you today, through a beautiful girl.”

 

What is love?

What is love? A timeless question. Everyone seems to have experienced it, yet nobody understands it.

You don’t love by choice. You ‘fall in love’.

When you love someone, you always lose. One can experience love only if he/she loses his person-hood. If you won someone’s heart by impressing him/her, know that you didn’t experience love. Love is about losing not winning.

Love is indeed one of the most misunderstood topic. You need to have an ‘spiritual eye’ if you want to understand what exactly is love.

Do you know that love happens within you?

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Most people associate love with another person or object. When you fall in love with someone, you think that you fell in love because that person is nice and beautiful. But the truth is that you are nice and beautiful not the person that you love. When you fall in love with someone for the first time, you must understand that, you have come in contact with the core of your being. The love that you feel for that person is just an expression of you becoming in touch with your own ‘soul’.

So if you fell in love with one person, chances are that you will fall in love with many others in the future. This statement may offend you but, yes, it is true.

How to know whether your love is true love or just sexual attraction?

When you fall in love with someone for the first time, it is certainly true love. In fact there is nothing called ‘untrue love’. Love is always true. ‘Sex’ is something that you use to contaminate love.

Love happens in different levels. The first one happens in the level of the physical body. Yes, it is sex, the lowest expression of love. For example, sex with a prostitute, is such type because only the physical bodies are involved.

The second level involves exchange of emotions. It is much stronger. Sex may or may not be involved. If you love someone constantly for a certain period of time, your emotions start to affect the other person and he/she will also start feeling love towards you. This is the most common type of love talked in the town.

Third level involves exchange of energies. Exchange of body and emotions can happen, but it is not essential. Most people do not experience this level of love. People who have advanced to a certain stage in the spiritual path may experience this kind of love. For example, love felt by a disciple in the presence of his/her guru.

Fourth level involves exchange of knowledge. Knowledge here means the knowledge of one’s original nature. That is the knowledge — I am the ‘self’. When two self-realized souls meet, they don’t see difference between each other. They feel one.

Fifth level is the ultimate one, it is the love of god. There are no people involved. This is the most powerful form of love. This type of love dissolves you unto the god. Once this happens, there is no difference between you and the god.

Why I hold the tea cup differently?

When we were kids, we drank tea in steel glasses. Of course, they didn’t have handles.

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There are no steel glasses in my kitchen now. I drink tea in a cup. But somehow, I don’t feel comfortable holding the cup with its handle. I hold the cup by its body. May be it is not just a matter of comfort. It also gives a sense of how hot is the tea. The feeling of ‘warmth’ I get from the body is good too. It looks like I get connected to the tea more when I hold the cup by its body. May be bodily contact is important not just on the bed. Perhaps, for the same reason, I like to eat with my hands, not with fork and spoon whenever possible.

Do we really need a handle on the cup? What about handle-less cups? Does a cup become a glass if we remove the handle?

What a nonsense article I just wrote. Extremely sorry about this.

The secret of knowing everything

Throughout the day, so many questions arise in our mind. But thanks to google. These days, whenever we have a question, we can ask google.

Google will certainly give you some answers. It will never say ‘I don’t know’.

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You have searched for thousands of questions and things in you life. But have your ever been satisfied?  Have you gotten an answer that satisfies you? In fact, you have even more questions now. You get an answer from google, but moments later you have several more questions.

So how to get out of this trap? Is it even possible?

Yes, it is possible, absolutely!

The only way is to turn inward. Before asking google ask yourself. Whenever you have a question in your mind, however big it be, close your eyes and ask it to yourself first. Don’t ever think that only Einstein can answer the question of your mind. Never think that only physicists can answer the questions about the universe. Don’t think that only a doctor can answer your health-related question. You are a physicist. You are also a doctor. You are everything. You don’t have to go to the university and get a degree “to know”. Knowledge is a universal right. It is accessible to everyone. But only those who turn inward can access it. That is the only way.

 

 

Story behind a photo 

A day of spring. Green and colorful, everywhere.

We had a fight, just before. But agreed to go out, to take some pictures. Nepalese new year it was.

My wife was clear, like the sky after a pouring rain. My daughter was happy, as always when out. And I was abiding by my true self.

An angel came. Young and calm. All curves she had. But the curve of her smile was that mattered. My daughter recognized her purity. She followed. And I approached.

Would you mind taking a family picture for us?

“Sure” she said. But “I love” she meant.

Two clicks and shine of three hearts captured.

For free, she took our pictures. Yet completely professional. Only thing we paid was “smile”.

I am houseless, not homeless

I live on the streets and people call me “homeless”. But I don’t agree with this title. May be I am “houseless” but I am certainly not homeless. Because I consider the whole earth as my home. Are all the animals and birds homeless too?

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I am absolutely no different than other human beings. But people treat me differently. I have not yet understood why.

The only difference between me and other people is that people wear expensive, fashionable clothes and I wear torn clothes. But people often complain that I stink. How can I make them understand, that it is my clothes that stink, not me. Why don’t they understand that it is the perfume that smells good, not their “beings”. They wear clean/elegant clothes and they think they look good, but the fact is that clothes look good not them.

The way people treat me is simply disgusting. They don’t even talk to me. Many people pass by me everyday. Although they don’t know me, I care for them. I smile when I see them smiling and I cry when I see them crying. I personally know many of them; how can I just ignore another human being?

I like talking to people but I never get a chance. I try to talk to them, but they offer me some money. It really hurts. At times, I just like to talk and share my feelings with them.

Thanks god, at least I have good health. Otherwise, who would afford the treatment these days, that even without insurance? But if I ever become sick, I know what to do. I will die, with a smile in my face.

I collect plastics, metals and other recycling things from the garbage and sell them. That is enough for my living. I think I am helping to clean the city but the city doesn’t like me.

The students of the university near my garbage heap, they think that I can’t read and write. It is true that I don’t have money to buy books, but I know how to read and write. I find enough books in the garbage. Just this last week, I had found a book named “The old man and the sea” written by Hemingway. A few pages of it were missing though. But I completed the story. It was easy to put myself in those missing pages, so I completed the book myself, filling with my own story.

Once in the garbage, I found a diary of a woman who was depressed with life. She was rich and had a great family. But she mentioned that she feels lonely, all the time. I couldn’t understand it. I found her life more miserable than my life. I feel lucky in this regard; at least I don’t have a fear of the so called society. I read such stories everyday. The whole city seems to be in trouble, in different ways. People in the city don’t seem to be what they look. Outside they look shining, but inside, they are suffering. I feel lucky again because I am not much different, inside and outside.

My society is very small, few homeless friends and some stray dogs. That’s all! No rules. No deadlines. No past. No future. We just live. At the present moment.

Well, that is my story. I know it is short but life is short too. So go and have fun!

 

Do not react, respond!

Every human being has two space; conscious and unconscious. The conscious space is the space of “awareness” and the unconscious space is the space of “tendencies”. In other words, the conscious space is the space of the heart and the unconscious space is the space of the mind. Conscious space is where our “true being” resides and the unconscious space is where our “false being” resides. This false being is the mind or ego. Love and joy belong to the conscious space. Anger, hate, jealousy, and fear belong to the unconscious space.

Decisions taken while being in the conscious space are always right because they are “life-sensitive”.  The decisions taken while being in the unconscious space are mostly wrong because they are “habit-sensitive”. Habits are derived from our past impressions which are not only limited to the past of this life but also from the past of our many lives. When we are in the conscious space, we “respond” to a situation. In contrast, in the unconscious space, we “react” to the situation.

Unfortunately, we live in the unconscious space for most of the time. Meditation is all about living in that conscious space. So we can be meditative all the time not just when we sit in a cross-legged position and close our eyes.

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Lets take an example – that you like coke very much. Coke is just an example; it could be anything with which you are habitual. Suppose in an afternoon, you were passing through the hallway in your office. Then you saw some bottles of coke and water lying in in the table of the graduate lounge. Somehow, you reached there and grabbed the a bottle of coke. You drank it. It certainly gave you some satisfaction. Now the question – did “you” drink the coke? You think that you drank it but the truth is something else. You did not drink it. You were only reacting at that moment. In other words, it was your “tendency” that decided to grab and drink the coke. If you were “conscious” at that moment, you would continue to walk to your office. Even if you were thirsty, you would choose to drink water had you been conscious. Perhaps, you realized this, although after some time, that you had to drink water because you were still feeling thirsty.

Life is all about making “conscious” decisions. Our success and happiness in life are buried somewhere in this space of consciousness. We have the choice to do each of our activity consciously or unconsciously – weather it be about drinking a coke or making a decision to buy a house.

Perhaps I will never see him again

We meet, walk together for some time, and then we depart. It happens in trains and public transits noticeably. But even at larger time-scales, it happens in our life all the time. Everyday or every week, we meet new friends, share things with them for some time and again time comes to say good bye. Some of those friends we will see again, some we won’t. Some we want to see again, some we don’t.

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Today, another such friend left a message in my desk and went away.

We not only shared the office, but we shared the air we breathed. I shared his energy and he shared my energy.

We didn’t communicate much as such but communication “happened”. In fact, communication that happens energy-wise is much more powerful and long lasting. He was a person with high energy and positivity. He was a great hiker and more importantly a responsible vegetarian. He was in many ways like a Yogi. I never saw him worried.

I will perhaps never see him again. But I am sure life will remind me of him in different ways at different times in the future.

My best wishes to him too.

 

 

New-Parent Experiences

It was okay if you called me heartless, ruthless, indifferent, inhumane, and selfish until a few days ago. But now that I have become father of a beautiful girl named Nova, please don’t call me so. It really hurts.

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My friends had told me that having a child is a different and unique experience. But I didn’t believe them. I thought they were saying so out of responsibility and were just pretending to be compassionate human beings. I thought having a child is merely a consequence of evolution and is a burden to the modern society.

It makes sense to a mother to love her child because having carried him/her for 9 months, she could think that the baby is her own body part. A recent research has also shown that fetal cells could migrate into the mother during pregnancy and it could be a reason for mother-child bonding. But for a father to love his child, what more reasons could be there other than a sense of responsibility? Well, there could be more things going on at the reproduction level, but lets not talk about it until research finds anything. I have also heard about the story of Penguin’s fathers who carry the eggs on their feet to save them from ice until the mother returns with some food after a few months. But why would the so-called intelligent human beings be so foolish?

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But, after becoming father of a sweet girl, my perception has changed. I don’t know for how long it will last, but my heart  has become fuller and bigger with love. I don’t know whether I have become a complete man, but it is highly likely that I have become a little better person. Now, I realize that my friends were true. To have a child is truly an amazing and unique experience.

I used to smile when I saw some kids around me, but, in the inside, I was an indifferent, heartless person. But now, I see every other kids differently, as the beloved children of their parents.

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Nova with her mother.

My mother used to say that love always flows downward, from the parents to their children, not the other way around. At that time I didn’t take her remarks seriously and said “well, may be love also follows the laws of gravity.” But, now, I have more empathy for parents and women. With the birth of our daughter, I feel more connected to my wife. I love the way my wife talks to our daughter. I love the way they play with each other. When I see them playing, I imagine Rihanna singing besides me “Just gonna stand there and watch them play, that’s alright, because you love the way they love.”

One of my friend had told me that having a child is equivalent to taking one course (3 credit hours) in terms of work load. But now I find it even more demanding. Furthermore, for a person like me who needs 8-10 hours of continuous sleep, it is little difficult to adjust. Babies need to have their diaper changed every three/four hours so a continuous sleep is now a dream to me. Taking baby’s medical care and food is not less demanding. And we have to discover our own ways of understanding and soothing the baby because babies communicate only by crying.

Okay, in the end, I have something to say to my unmarried and single  friends. Having a child is a must if you want to experience somethings called unconditional love, affection, and compassion. And, every child around you deserves your attention, love, and care. So next time you see a child, please try to smile with a feel, with a heart. May be you can.

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To the more matured parents I still have something to say. I don’t know how it feels to have a boy yet, but I can say that if you haven’t had a girl, you might be missing some truly amazing experience. So please consider having a girl before considering family planning. 🙂

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12249902_10205165356560888_1038136377881380121_nMy happy family.

Thank you for reading.

Thanks to Yongfei Zhang for inspiring me to write this post this morning.