What is love? A timeless question. Everyone seems to have experienced it, yet nobody understands it.
You don’t love by choice. You ‘fall in love’.
When you love someone, you always lose. One can experience love only if he/she loses his person-hood. If you won someone’s heart by impressing him/her, know that you didn’t experience love. Love is about losing, not winning.
Love is indeed one of the most misunderstood topic. You need to have an ‘spiritual eye’ if you want to understand what exactly is love.
Do you know that love happens within you?
Most people associate love with another person or object. When you fall in love with someone, you think that you fell in love because that person is nice and beautiful. But the truth is that you are nice and beautiful not the person that you love. When you fall in love with someone for the first time, you must understand that, you have come in contact with the core of your own being. The love that you feel for that person is just an expression of you becoming in touch with your own ‘soul’.
So if you fell in love with one person, chances are that you will fall in love with many others in the future. This statement may offend you but, yes, it is true.
How to know whether it is true love or just attraction?
Attraction happens in different levels. The first one happens in the level of the physical body. The second level involves exchange of emotions. It is much stronger. If you think about a particular person constantly for a certain period of time, your emotions start to affect the other person.
If you ‘fell’ in love with someone, it is certainly true love. But if you loved someone by choice, it is not. In love, there are no choices, anyone can fall in love with anyone. A king can fall in love with his maid. So if you ‘fall’ in love, it is always true.
Unfortunately, there are two forces that do not let you fall in love — your mind and your society. Both of them force you to ‘love’ something or someone of their choice. So true love is rare these days.